When you have a baby there are two types of people in your life:
The first group, thinks nothing has changed. Still curses around your toddler, and doesn’t understand why you don’t want to go to the club on a Saturday night.
The second group, thinks everything has changed. They won’t invite you to ANYTHING now and they assume you’re just too busy since having a baby. They assume you no longer enjoy a night out or a glass of something delicious.
The truth though, lies somewhere in between. I’m still me, I still enjoy all the little things and still want to see my friends. I still like all the same things I used to, I just do them a tad less. No, I don’t want to go out every single weekend, but the truth is I still want to go out see you on special occasions and celebrate your birthday.
But let’s talk about that second group:
Being mom has definitely changed me, I’m not trying to hide that. I’m a different person. However, not getting an invite to celebrate you (whether it was your job promotion, new home, or birthday) just flat out hurts. I’m still your friend. I still care about you deeply. I still want to go out and celebrate with you.
I still want to get texts and phone calls from you, and updates on your life- don’t just write me off because I had a baby.
Both of these groups of people are super frustrating, lets face it.
Luckily, I’ve found that this phase is temporary. People will remember that you are still you- they’ll go back to inviting you to events and texting you more than once a month. This newborn phase can be isolating and overwhelming no matter how many kids you have. Those first few weeks everyone wants to meet your baby and bring you food/gifts. The next 8-12 weeks are pretty isolating. Everyone already saw your baby and they don’t want to “bother” you.
Soon, everything and everyone will go back to normal (or a new normal) and you’ll start to feel like yourself again.
If you’re in that newborn funk with no friends, call me or send me a message. I know that you’re still you, and you still want your friends. I’m always happy to help.
